She and I ran into each other at a restaurant and we truly reconnected. She was talking about her boyfriend, and I remembered my project on dating, and asked her what she thought '20 something dating' was.

Clementine basically reitorated what I said in my previous post, that dating in my town, at my age is really getting ready to go out to a bar, and meeting youre 'date' there. Not a prearranged date. She referred to the concept of meeting randoms out, getting to know them and leaning in for a kiss. No pressure. Often times this leads to after bar situations.

Further, it often leads to the following:

Guy- "yaha shwo this whass fun, can I call you sometiiime" (slurred spelling for emphasis)

Girl- "agahah ua (hands phone) here is my nubber r2395*#

To sum up, nothing to run to your girlfriends about. Oh the guy you drunkenly misstyped your phone number in, or the guy you went home with after the bar to do who knows what.

Clementine is a lucky girl. She is dating a guy who is slightly famous. He is in a well known band and she gets to travel with him when he tours.

They recently went to Germany for the week.

Now that is what I call a date.

xx champ

I typed a long rambly entry about my undiluted misery (refer to The Art of Wanting) but was interrupted by Hasini's call so it led me to a Ctrl+a then delete. So now I would like to say Ineko's book blog has made my book love more serious than ever. I cannot wait for the 12th to get my pay and then go to Kino for a book raid! Screw overpriced tomes!

I'm probably going to rearrange my bookshelf to make it look less orderly and more eccentric like Ineko's. Books which I have no stomach for rereads, I will donate to the library so my shelves will scream nothing but ME. ME. MEEEEE.

This is keeping me quite excited! New books! Woo!

Til the coming book update in the morning.

Ta ta, no one in particular.

Every morning I approach the news papers with the fear of getting de-sensitized. Today for instance, The Times of India, Ahmedabad Edition carried news about an act of unnatural proportions – Man having sex with a calf! The matter was brought in to light due to the animal protection activists you may read the entire article at (http://epaper.timesofindia.com/Daily/skins/TOI/navigator.asp?Daily=TOIA&login=default&AW=12206834079060 )

Thank God, there are at least some people in the society (People for Animal) who think that there is something called as evil / wrong and the matter was brought to light. A voiceless animal found some one who could fight for its cause; unfortunately our big mouthed society has none!  

Moreover, it is shocking to see how Times has written the news, with the reference of union health minister Ramadoss’ efforts to remove the section 377 relating to unnatural sexual intercourse. Simply put the law reads as under : 

Whoever voluntarily has carnal intercourse against the order of nature, with any man, woman or animal shall be punishable with imprisonment for life or with imprisonment of either description for a term which may extend to ten years and shall also be liable to fine.

Now if you read this law without any prejudice, it is plain and clear, that to live in a society we must define the lines. We must define what is wrong and what is right. No matter even if the majority of the society accepts the wrong as right, it does not deter or change what is right. If there exists anything called RIGHT.

I am infact suffering and am unable to remove from my mind, the agony and pain that gripped my mind just a few days back when a report about a six month old girl appeared in the same newspaper. Left with a torn vagina and bleeding anus, the six month old innocent baby, was picked from her mother’s side, while asleep…!! Can you picture that !! Do the howls and tear filled screams wake us up?!!

Children are the future of our society, what we do to them, decides the future and the longetivity of our society. It’s painful and pathetic to know, what unbridled thoughts and desires in humans can lead people into? With the constant bombardment of media with sexually explicit material, lower moral convictions, pluralistic worldview and the popular culture which promotes “it is all about me”, it doesn’t take a lot of pains & brains to understand the surge in the unnatural drives among people in a society.

When you begin to take fences off, you will ultimately be left with the walls of your house to take the brunt of the attacks; and attacks will surely come to finally crumble the house, the pleasure of which you had in mind and for which you ultimately took the fences off.

I know most of us have been imprinted & impressed by the image and majesty of the Prince of Gays, the poster boy for Times of India. With Times’ level & taste for photography, it would have been really amateurish, if they had put up the prince in the act itself – Lest some people would have an understanding of what the term “unnatural” and “disgustful” means.  So much coverage, so much of support & glitter added to an equally contemptible act to make it look like normal and desirable.

To justify evil deeds and desires people in the society have borrowed the word “freedom”, which appeals to all and is likened by all. Look around and you will be stunned to see, what all is traded in disguise of freedom and with its tag attached. Accepting a moral absolute demands that we live our life in conformance to the standards required by the moral absolute, which in fact the pluralistic society finds hard to live by and hence to support its baser instincts it ends up and sometimes is coerced in to supporting the denial of absolutes and thereby propagates evil.

In the name of freedom, people in the society propagate and are promoting others to pull walls and fences down, which have been holding the society all these years. The term Gay was not well known in our society and culture, although I agree that it was all hidden under the covers. However that should not be made the reason for baser instincts to be promoted and propagated ! People say lets talk about it in the open, lets discuss it, lets bring it out and be honest about it, but it doesn’t mean that accepting that there is this evil in the society equals standing with it, promoting it or propagating it or infact putting it up as if its right or a matter of choice of ones freedom.

Evil is evil and we must all stand up and raise our voices. You would hear a whole lot of people trying to blame it all on the genes and would try to give you explanations on how some people are born with that bent. But does it mean that we should freely allow this in our society. Does it mean people in the psychiatric wards be let loose to do what ever they want to? Don’t we try to discipline them? Don’t we try to train and teach them to get them back in to the society? Does that mean that we stop telling them when they commit wrong or put up barrier to ensure corrective behavior?  Does it mean we justify everything that they do? I am sure it is just a matter of some time, people will fly in a professor from any corner of the world to justify their deeds and to blame it all on the genes, be it murder, rape, sodomy or any kind of evil. Will that mean our laws will all have to be changed to continue to accommodate all the research? Will that mean as our society grows with knowledge on issues it will slowly accept evil and reject truth? The prisons will soon be empty, there will be no right or wrong and each one will do what they like and be free ….What lies ahead is literally fearful!

By embracing pluralism we have started redefining terms, our children are being taught and educated as moral zombies, who have no clear understanding about truth, right and good or even if such things exist, leave alone on how to make decisions. Televisions are full of soaps where relationships are entangled, media is portraying the wrongs of crooked minded people as fashion and high flying societies desirable lifestyles, Spiritualism and religion is godless and is all centered about the individuals happiness, fitness and joy. We surely are not laying a good foundation by treating wrongs and evils as accepted and normal for the coming generation and are offering them a tremendously morally decaying, foundationless environment, and we shouldn’t expect miracles to happen.

Its heart rendering to see the moral, spiritual and cultural situation of our society which is very quickly gaining grounds and popularity, where morality is completely jettisoned and freedom has taken complete priority over right and wrong. In fact it seems today that the only moral right that is left or which exists is the moral right of freedom. However society forgets that this is a mere illusion, as there doesn’t exist a thing called absolute freedom, it’s a contradiction in terms like the term free love – as it’s the nature of love to bind itself.

Insanity is the ultimate form of absolute freedom and by rejecting truth and accepting a pluralistic worldview, the road that’s taken up by the society has started showing us glimpses of where we are heading.

 Ps: This is not a hate mail against Gays; I believe like every human, they have the right to live. But there needs to be a clear distinction between society's help, approval, support and acceptance and what it applauds or celebrates.

Denyse who had the expensive coffee in the day, got herself the duper awfully taste of LycheeYogurt kinda drink. The rest of us opted for hot drinks as the airconplusrain already gave us headache. If we catch the cold bugs again...oh well, maybe even better, because that will be noworkandnoschool for everyone. Fat hope yeah.

In the previous post, I talked about my non-adventurous character of sticking to the most plain boring colors. Now I realised, when it comes to foods and drinks, I also have the same problem. Every cafe I walk in, my first and only choice will be - Hot/Ice Mocha please. Mochacinno would be better actually. However, it seems like its not a market for Mochacinno here. Everywhere I go, I ask for it, but they come back with 'Oh, you mean Mocha?' -___________-

I miss New Zealand and Melbourne already! :(

It was good catching up with the girls once in a while, especially with Miss Denyse who just got a job! Congratulations. Happy for yew! Next Friday, we girls are going down to Zouk for some Phuture's Loves. Catch us there if you're coming! <3

My latest purchase - The super big red umbrella from Guardian! <3

Okay, rushing off to the gym.

TGIF is coming! Heee...<3<3<3

I got on a airplane to travel up to a well known city. After a long wait the aircraft’s engines started to roar and the aircraft hit the runway, however I was startled at the unusual slow speed of the aircraft and guessed something was wrong. Then all of a sudden I saw that the aircraft was moving out of the airport gates and it hit the roads. I got up, the air hostess waved her hands and signed me, as if asking me to jump up, but then I realized that she was infact asking me to sit down. She said we are taking off in a short while, please be seated till the flight is stable and the seat belt signed is switched on.

While I was still trying to understand what was happening. The flight started to bend forwards and make a nose dive, that’s when I noticed, to my utter horror instead of flying up it was trying to dig itself in to the ground!  I yelled “Hey what’s this! It was supposed to be a flight to this particular city, but you are hitting the roads and taking us in to the ground!!”

The airhostess with her trained smile replied “Sir, please be patient let me explain it to you. Sir, for us flying doesn’t mean leaving the ground and going up in to the air. The city you named is not on the ground, its infact it is under the ground, we will shortly reach there. Please be angry and kindly be jumping!”

 I know you feel like your brains just under went a liposuction! Well, the fact is that – if you believe in relativism this would completely be a normal incident and you would feel your logic challenged, sadly this is what many people in the world believe in. Relativism – “each man can have his own truth”, what is true for you doesn’t mean its true for others.

However Truth by definition is an exclusive term. Each time you make an absolute statement you negate the opposite and are affirming that the opposite is false.

It is logical to understand that you cannot be going both up and down or right and left, at the same moment. There is no escape from the absolute nature of truth. And when ever anyone tries to challenge the absolute nature of truth, they will find themselves digging their own ground or making a thousand qualifications of what they said.

Because when relativists claim “truth is relative” they are in fact making an absolute claim! They are stating that there is no absolute truth excepting the truth that “there is no absolute truth”.  So when a relativist states this, what he is saying is not that both He and you ( who refute relativism and approve the absolute nature of truth) are right but only He is right !!. And for truth to be both relative and absolute together at the same time is to have a logic defying understanding, just as there are no square circles, or a bachelor’s wife.

I am sure many of us have been given this illustration “if you look at a glass half full, what will you say? “Is it half empty or half full”, relativists would say, you see it all depends on how you look at it. Further relativism would say that what is half full for you, can be half empty for some one else. At times, if you are not critically thinking you can be overwhelmed by these types of questions. The point they miss firstly, is that the question is not about ones perspective it is in fact, about the truth irrespective of ones perspective, sincerity or beliefs, hence the point relativists are trying to make, using this illustration is baseless and not to the context. As the fact in this case, is that the glass is half filled with water (half empty and half full).

Secondly, during communication we do not need to always define or state what is not. For eg. When you go to sleep you do not ask your better half to switch on darkness! We just have to switch off the light, which exists. You do not ask for half a glass of water and half a glass of emptiness, you just ask for half a glass of water and its implied and understood that the other half of the glass is required empty, as no one drinks emptiness (as some relativists do).  If relativism and the basic fact those relativists are trying to prove has to stand true, it would mean that when the glass is full, it is empty also? This, in fact is a logical impossibility.

Now apply this scenario to the court room, where a murderer would state relativism, where would it all lead to? If relativism was true, the world we are living in would have no laws to govern and we would have been in a much worse state that we are now, even with a big portion of humanity which buys in to relativism to justify their deeds.

Now look at this :

Tao says:
Truth said is no longer Truth...
But what he says here must be believed as the truth!!, So what’s your take on it, should we count that as truth?

Buddhism says:
Truth is understood when the man becomes the watcher, so much that the watcher and the watched are one...
So then who was the man looking at in the first instance? Is the one making the statement me? Cos if the one answering, is saying the Truth, that means he has already become the watched ( and that’s me!). While I never ever made the above statement- and that’s absolutely true, Isn’t it!!.

Zen says:
Truth just IS...
Is what? Is it a lie, Is it an illusion(maya), Is it Jesus, who uniquely said “I am the Truth”!

Sree Sree Ravishankar artfully says:
Truth is when you love without knowing that you are in love!!
That’s infatuation!  Truth can’t be unreasonable! Else we all need to first have our brains sucked out!

Rajneesh says:
Truth is YOU... why are you worried about it?? it just IS just as you ARE and the tree IS and the stars and moon are...
Have you heard of the bio-terror attack of Rajneesh on Dallas residents to get his candidate on the chair; His philosophy espouses Maya or illusion. So is truth then an ILLUSION? Doesn’t that make his statements illusory too? Humanity has deceit, lie, falsehood, pretense, sham, deception, dishonesty and a whole lot of evil. Does that mean Truth is all of this and still is the TRUTH!

TRUTH is not a concept or an idea, GOD is the one from whom Truth emanates. And Jesus claimed “ I am the Truth”, this very fact must make us verify His Truth claim.

And now for something completely different, maybe.

Anti depressants offer pretty much the same feeling. They make you feel like you can take on the world. They level you off so that you are better able to accept yourself thereby accepting everyone else. They will make your nervous system release synaptic responses that will trigger the release the same type of hormones that are triggered by cocaine. OK, can of worms there - but it's true.

So now we know that the pills from your shrink and the bottle from the store at the end of the street have very simmilar effects on our bodies.

Two Questions, actually three.

1 - Why when we drink too much do we get depressed as opposed to higher?

2 - Are we more worried about supporting booze based upon it's track record?

3 - Why, with all the science, can't they design a pill that can have all the positives of booze and not the downsides? thereby eliminating it all together and destroying yet another industry bent on our own self destruction.

One answer - MONEY. There is no money in a pill that mimics the good effects of alcohol and not the bad as there is so much money made off the bad side. Court cases, arrests, tow trucks, hospital staff, awareness groups and fuckin so on. They can harness sex in a pill but that never hurt the hookers business !!!!!!!!!!!!!. If they create such a booze pill that would destroy many shrinks, and hospital wards, police job and so on - YOU GET THE PICTURE YET?

There is nothing more important to society than money. Not family, not preservation of life, not happiness - The almighty dollar.

Have we as a people put the green back in higher esteem than our own backs?

On this particular promo the contestant was asked "Have you ever had a relationship with a co-worker?"  This caused me to wonder if during a lie detector test you can ask for clarification.  I know your final answer has to be YES or NO, but what if you do not understand the question, or just need context.  Think the national spelling bee, "Could you us it in a sentence?"  I imagine you cannot, and your YES/NO answer is based on how YOU interpret the question.  The point of this case of the show was to get the guy to admit he cheated on his wife, but what if he says YES to having a relationship with a co-worker, but he was single at the time?  In my case, I would have to answer YES, but it was a date. I had long forgotten about this incident until this promo jogged my memory, and since I am running out of "Comstock" stories I am raking my lobe for more recent stories.  This leads me to my story.

I have had dates with co-workers, but this is not one of them.  Several jobs ago, I was still the new guy when the Christmas party rolled around.  As the new guy I did not know anyone well.  The party started at the bar across the street from the office.  Strangely enough this as near ODS White (Larry's Snyder store).  Maybe this was why weirdness ensued.  The party started good.  I had some beers with some people and we played darts.  One of the QA guys brought his girlfriend.  On one of my trips to the bar for another i got into a conversation with her.  Nothing special, just normal chit-chat.  We ended up talking for awhile, until the boss decided to move the party to his place, just a few blocks away.

Nothing strange so far.  It is coming.

I followed some co-worker to the boss's house.  It was a pretty cool place.  People were everywhere.  In the kitchen, of course, inspecting and drinking from his impressive wine collection.  In the finished basement there was a foosball table, and even more people hanging around the living room.  There were a lot more people at the house than had been at the bar, I later found out that the boss had turned it into a full blown party, inviting the neighbors and his other friends.  Almost as soon as I walked through the front door I was hounded by the girlfriend.  I said hello, but unlike our conversation at the bar, this turned creepy.  I am not known for being an observant man when it comes to the signals of women, so only the most brick-over-the-head signals get through (I hope I am better now), but even I could immediately tell she was hitting on me big time.  I lost her by quickly moving from room to room "surveying" to party.  This plan worked well until I was brought to a sudden halt when I got to the hot tub the boss had on his enclosed back porch.  He boss's wife getting into the hot tub wearing a bikini.  She was an attractive woman.  To make me gasp more, there where other co-workers in the hot tub, and the the wife, and the boss himself, were inviting everyone to join in the hot tub!  I felt like I had walked into "Boogie Nights."

I turned to leave the scene and ran right in to the girlfriend, who was in her bathing suit (WHY DID EVERYONE HAVE THEIR BATHING SUITS?!) and was trying real hard to get me in the hot tub. "I don't have my suit", I said.  "Don't worry about it!", she replied.  I already had enough clues to beat feet, but that was over the top, down the hill, and over the top of the next hill.

I found successful hiding in the basemen playing foosball.  At one point the girlfriend, apparently done with her swim, came down to find me again, but left due to my faked engrossment in foosball.  After a few games everyone was tired of foos and headed upstairs.  I took the opportunity to leave the party, before I was cornered in the basement; never a good place to be.  Such ended my Friday night.

The next Monday I was asked about my conversation with Patrick's girlfriend (only now do I remember his name and I am too lazy to re-write the above).  My inquisitor was Shea, another QA person, one of the few people at the job I spoke to on a regular basis, if you consider IM "speaking".  I told her the story, and she agreed it was an odd scene with the hot tub.  Oh, I forgot to mention the boss's wife also worked in the office (WRITER's NOTE: I am too apathetic to fix prepositional phrases).  I consulted She on if I should tell Patrick.  I wanted to, but I barely knew him.  She relieved me of the duty by volunteering to tell him herself.  The girlfriend had a history of cheating on him already.

In the end Patrick confronted his girlfriend about it.  She denied it.  He dumped her.  They got back together.  I saw her once more when she delivered cookies to the office several months later.  She quietly and shamefully said hi to me as she offer me a cookie.  The cookie was not memorable in any way.  I lost a glove.  It was the first and only nice pair of gloves I have even owned.  I was upset I lost the glove.

Fast and furious in uploading the pics. Gonna hit the sack soon.

Yesterday, Ant came to my place for a morning swim but just after 10 laps, it started to drizzle. What luck. Had a warm bath and headed to Suntec for lunch.

One of the workers is really Jack of all trades. He knows everything! From dealing with electrical circuit, carpentry to metal welding.

Had Korean food for lunch. Cheap food court food can be good too.

Marks and Spencer

1 huge bag of snacks!

Went to get some daily necessities, dog food and drinks etc to fill up the empty fridge.

After my tuition, picked chin up and went to the airport to send ahwan off. She was so not ready! Rushing around frantically. Batt died. Many thanks to Wanting for the pics (:

Ah wan, zhihong and her friends

We look so stupid but it doesnt matter.

Come back soon dearie

ahwan and pretty jo

with kat

I had no intention of grabbing her boob. Just trying to position ahwan's hand.

Shiqi. Ant calls her the mysterious girl.

Suhui

With her mum, des and wan ting

<3

We hold them in our arms for a little while, but in our hearts forever!

September 3, 1984 was my literal Labor Day. I went into labor with my first born daughter on labor day.

She was very disagreeable about leaving the womb for this harsh world.

After 31 hrs of labor, she did so with great health and vitality.

Weighing only 5.15 lbs and being 18 inches,

she was a tiny peanut born full term to the day!

~~~

I am in labor pains again, 24 years to the day as I release her into this harsh world.

My Becca left early this AM to travel half way around the world to be a part of YWAM for the next 7 months.

She's full of spunk and adventure and we know that this is the beginning of a life change for all of us.

She will celebrate her 24th birthday on Air Berlin and as the day comes to an end, she will arrive in Herrnhut Germany.

My kids...Ben & Becca

Hold them while you can.

As a home school mom of 15 years, I grew especially close to my children. Many warned us when we started that venture. Becca and I clashed terribly. She was a very strong willed child. But God took those years of dedication and sacrifice and made something completely beautiful out of it.

Today, Becca is a lovely, talented, and Spirit controlled woman.

She's the true pride of a mother's heart.

With "her girls" that she discipled for 6 years at Grace Community Church.

She left quite an imprint.

She loves friends, fun and foolin around!

I will miss her everyday.

~

My dearest and closest girl friend has left for a life of her own. A life that God has planned for her since birth. Actually before birth, "he has written all the days ordained for me before one of them came to be." Psalm 139:16

Fly Baby Fly!

Photo Credit to Facebook & Flickr

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